De Facto State Of MindWhy I Consider Myself Unemployed Rather Than A Stay-At-Home ParentI remember asking once, as a child who had recently discovered the injustices of capitalism, why I couldn’t opt out of it by “going…4 min read·Feb 25, 2023----
De Facto State Of MindOn The Completion Of Level OneIt feels wrong to talk about you in the third person, so I’m going to write this to you directly. I’ve been raising you for a year…3 min read·Feb 22, 2023----
De Facto State Of MindSomething I Haven’t Been Able To Figure OutI often get asked when I’m going back to work. The answer is usually “I don’t know”. In my culture, it’s kind of a given that I’ll go…4 min read·Jan 21, 2023----
De Facto State Of MindDisqualifying Myself From The Natural Parenting CompetitionWhile I was pregnant, I was dead-set on being a “crunchy granola” parent. I’ve always been interested in a healthy and sustainable…5 min read·Jul 13, 2022----
De Facto State Of MindA Manifesto For My DaughterAt some point, quite soon, I suspect, I’m going to have to talk to my daughter about why she faces discrimination. Frankly, it’s a…5 min read·May 11, 2022----
De Facto State Of MindReligions, Religions, Most Of Them WrongI must confess, I didn’t grow up with much Kurdish representation. The only way to do things was by the book — and the dictionary…4 min read·Jan 9, 2022--1--1
De Facto State Of MindSelf-Improvement, Self-Blame And Internalised Kurdophobia“It’s a lot easier to go out for a meal and avoid the bread basket than it is to go out into the world and avoid anti-Kurdish…8 min read·Jan 8, 2022----
De Facto State Of MindWho In Their Right Mind Would Want To Be Kurdish?I’m 20. I have blue eyes and I was blonde as a child. I’ve occasionally thought of taking up playing the violin. As part of a seemingly…4 min read·Jun 19, 2021----
De Facto State Of MindShock Horror! I’m Attracted To People Of My Own Ethnicity.It’s become a habit of mine to tell white people I have the romantic interests of a frigid nun. “I don’t date,” I say. “I’m not into…7 min read·May 26, 2021----
De Facto State Of MindWhat It Means To “Work Like A Turk”I bumped into one of my friends, my first Kurdish friend in fact, the other day and we’ve been back in touch online too. We mentioned our…5 min read·May 9, 2021----