De Facto State Of MindWhy I Consider Myself Unemployed Rather Than A Stay-At-Home ParentI remember asking once, as a child who had recently discovered the injustices of capitalism, why I couldn’t opt out of it by “going…Feb 25, 2023Feb 25, 2023
De Facto State Of MindOn The Completion Of Level OneIt feels wrong to talk about you in the third person, so I’m going to write this to you directly. I’ve been raising you for a year…Feb 22, 2023Feb 22, 2023
De Facto State Of MindSomething I Haven’t Been Able To Figure OutI often get asked when I’m going back to work. The answer is usually “I don’t know”. In my culture, it’s kind of a given that I’ll go…Jan 21, 2023Jan 21, 2023
De Facto State Of MindDisqualifying Myself From The Natural Parenting CompetitionWhile I was pregnant, I was dead-set on being a “crunchy granola” parent. I’ve always been interested in a healthy and sustainable…Jul 13, 2022Jul 13, 2022
De Facto State Of MindA Manifesto For My DaughterAt some point, quite soon, I suspect, I’m going to have to talk to my daughter about why she faces discrimination. Frankly, it’s a…May 11, 2022May 11, 2022
De Facto State Of MindReligions, Religions, Most Of Them WrongI must confess, I didn’t grow up with much Kurdish representation. The only way to do things was by the book — and the dictionary…Jan 9, 20221Jan 9, 20221
De Facto State Of MindSelf-Improvement, Self-Blame And Internalised Kurdophobia“It’s a lot easier to go out for a meal and avoid the bread basket than it is to go out into the world and avoid anti-Kurdish…Jan 8, 2022Jan 8, 2022
De Facto State Of MindWho In Their Right Mind Would Want To Be Kurdish?I’m 20. I have blue eyes and I was blonde as a child. I’ve occasionally thought of taking up playing the violin. As part of a seemingly…Jun 19, 2021Jun 19, 2021
De Facto State Of MindShock Horror! I’m Attracted To People Of My Own Ethnicity.It’s become a habit of mine to tell white people I have the romantic interests of a frigid nun. “I don’t date,” I say. “I’m not into…May 26, 2021May 26, 2021
De Facto State Of MindWhat It Means To “Work Like A Turk”I bumped into one of my friends, my first Kurdish friend in fact, the other day and we’ve been back in touch online too. We mentioned our…May 9, 2021May 9, 2021
